Rights of Wife In Islam - Must Read for Brothers

Allah u akbar .. Allah u akbar ..
Walillahil Hamd
Assalam u alaikum
Hope everybody is doing good By Allah's grace

I am the moderator of an Islamic group "Invitation To truth" and a brother had asked about the rights of the wife which i really felt like answering myself personally , I still will make an attempt in support of my sisters and of course in helping my brothers in knowing their obligations towards theor wives. Though i have read teh books "Gift to the bride" and various other books maybe 6 years back but i couldnt remember the exact traditions so i had to carry out a research to recall the whole thing in a more beter way so that i could communicate it rightly. After hours of research I have compiled my effort here and tried to be very precise and I ask Allah to give me the courage to speak nothing but the Truth and i seek refuge from slandering and exaggerating. and may Allah accept my humble effort and make it a path to my forgiveness and i hope it benefits teh Muslim ummah ... Aaameen

Firstly, The bond of a husband and wife is so pure and the rights are so equal that a marriage cannot take place against the consent of either the bride or groom. That is the first step which shows Equality in Islam regarding marriage. Each have an equal obligation towards each other all their life, though in different aspects. Marriage in Islam is for teh sake of modesty and comfort. The quran says:
"They are your
garments and you are their garments." (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187).
"And among His signs is this,
that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in
tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts:
verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Al Rum 30:21)

The next verse is a verse that has always put me to great thought:
"You will not be able to deal equally between (your) wives, however, much you may wish to do so. But turn not altogether away (from one), leaving her in suspense, If you do good and be righteous, then surely Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful." (4:129)
In the above verse Allah Himself is syaing that you cannot balance two wives equally Allah u akbar but then u see he has indeed allowed 4 marriages. Despite who knows us better than Allah, It means that justice equally can never be done to both wives and i believe this to be the biggest obligation to a man who is having 2 or more wives, he should be awars that he will never be able to be just with both but must try to be so in the material aspect, The verse actually depicts teh fact that the heart is so infantile that it will be more towards one wife in sum aspects and more yearning for the otehr in other aspects. The Prophet May Allah bless him, would treat all wives equally but then he loved Aisha May Allah be pleased with her the most.
another aspect of marriage is when Allah says :
"…consort with them in kindness, for if ye hate them it may happen that ye hate a thing wherein Allah hath placed much good." (An-Nisa': 19)

Almighty Allah has addressed all Muslims, comhanding them to behave, and consort with women in kindness; associate with them in life with goodwill and sympathy and never give them trouble. This is a general guidance. This verse is, as it were, the heading and the text of this chapter. The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has explained this verse by his words and practice. He gave such importance to the need of showing misbehaviour to women at that he is reported to have said in a Tradition:
"Meaning: The best of you are those who behave well with their women and I am best of you in behaving well with my women. (Tirmidhi - chapter on right of a women over her husband Tradition no. 1172)
The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] attached so much importance to the protection of the rights of women and ensuring good behaviour with them that he has explained this matter in many Traditions. The first Tradition on this subject is one narrated by Hazrat Abu Hurairah wherein the Holy Prophet is reported to have said:
"I advise you to wish well for the women. You should accept this advice of mine."
Allah u Akbar what more better examples can i get. The Prophet Peace be upon him took a race with his wife Ayesha May Allah be pleased with her and she had out ran him later when she gained weight he again took a race with her and out ran her. Subhan Allah such was teh love of the Prophet for his wives.
The man has the responsibilty of teh maintenance of the wife, which includes her clothing, her residence and her food. If teh wife goes out to work the Husband should appoint a lady to ease teh house chores for the wife. The wife may not spend any of her earning on teh household as it is the responsibility of teh man to take care of her, and if she does spend her earnings then it is indeed her goodness and may Allah reward her for it. The husband should appoint a wet nurse for the children hath the wife not be ble to feed the children coz of pain or any other reason. Today wet nurse is not a concept anymore, but if we turn back in time and we go to the time of the Prophet (PBUH) we see that wet nurses were appointed for teh children and the children were even fed by the wet nurses, just because teh mother had so many children to look after or sometimes the pain of feeding the child was too much. Allah u akbar
Halima was the wet nurse of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) The rights in Islam for teh wife are so much just that we are all so unaware.
The man should not get jealous of his wife and suspect her as
The Prophet (s) said: "Do not be excessively jealous of your wife lest evil be hurled at her on your account" (la tukthir al-gheerata `ala ahlika fa turama bi al-su'i min ajlik) and he said: "Allah is jealous and the believer is jealous; and Allah's jealousy is that the believer should not go to that which Allah has forbidden for him" (inna Allaha yagharu wa al- mu'minu yagharu wa gheerat Allahi in ya'tiya al-mu'minu ma harrama `alayhi).
Now i am going to highlight the most sever aspect which has actually annoyed a lot of men whom i have spoken to about, but its not a matter of getting anyone annoyed but a matter of putting forward facts :
Thereafter the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has spoken a very serious sentence of far-reaching consequences. When the meaning of this sentence is explained to men they get annoyed. That sentence is:
"This means that according to the laws of the Shari'ah the only demand you can make of them is that they should live with you in your house".
the Jurists have deduced a ruling of delicate nature and which makes men annoyed. The ruling lays down that according to the Shari'ah it is not the responsibility of a woman to cook food for the household. For this purpose the Jurists have divided women into two classes. Women of one class are those who do household work, including cooking food in their parent's houses. The other class consists of women who do not cook food in their father's house where cooks are employed for this work. If after marriage a woman of the latter class goes to her husband's house she is not at all responsible to cook food, religiously, legally, morally or otherwise. On the other hand, that wife may ask her husband to hire a cook for her as man is obliged to provide her with food along with other necessaries of life. The Jurists write:
"It is the responsibility of the husband to provide his wife with cooked food."
The wife cannot be forced to cook food neither by force, nor by the law, because the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has said in clear words:
"This means: You have a right to keep them in your house which it is not lawful for them to leave without your permission."
With this exception the laws of the Shari'ah have imposed no responsibility on them.
However, If she belongs to the first category the one who used to cook food in her parents' house she too is not legally responsible to cook food i.e. she cannot be compelled by law to cook food. However, the responsibility falls on her only morally. In such a case the husband is responsible only to provide the food materials. Even then it is not her responsibility to cook food for the husband and the children. A wife in this class cannot ask her husband to provide her with cooked food. However, if she refuses to cook food for her husband and the children, the court cannot force her to do it. The respected Jurists have explained these problems at great length.

Our society has teh tradition of Women cooking and cleaning but havent we just discussed in the beginning itself that Man should provide food (eatable or cooked) and clothes(wearbale and stitched) and a house(clean) These are the responsibilities of the man, But Alhamdulillah todays Muslim women are out doing their duties and Alhamdulillah, may Allah acceot their effort.
So my dear Brothers in Islam Apapreciate your wife's service to you, isnt it enough that she has left her whole family and come to live with you in your strange house with your strange family (with strange i mean no offence i mean she is not acquainted to your house)
I am not really trying to offend men but i am actually tryingto increase the awareness of men regarding their obligations towards their wife, This entire research of mine is dedicated to the forming of a better society and not for the women to give up their duties towards tehir husbands and neither for the man to get disheartened.
i have taken into consideration greatly
"Tirmidhi Book of Suckling, Chapter on the rights of a wife over her husband tradition no. 1162"
Okay my dear brothers and sisters, I hope we all comply to our duties and may Allah acceot my humble effort on this article.and please forward this article of mine to as many brothers who need to be made aware of their duties and to the sisiters who should teach their children their duties. and lets make it a Sadaqa Jaariah
Aaameen
Wa Akhir ud da'wana Anil Hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen
JAzak Allah khair was salam